Few weeks back while having some evening gist with few of my friends, yes, it is called gist since men don’t gossip. Anyway, we were four guys; all of us staying in the same building and as usual DISCO, GENCO or whatever PHCN has unbundled to were holding electricity in their usual way. So, the men decided to stay outside the house gist away, the talk started from sport, veered into how to make more money and of course we rounded up on women and sex.
In the course of our ‘women’ gist, the dude who probably was the youngest among us regaled us with the tale of how this particular chic kept ‘tapping out’ the last time they were together. Yes, ‘kiss and tell’ is not an exclusive right of the female folks, boys and even men do it too especially if the babe in question is a side chic.

Anyways, this guy kept telling us how the babe was screaming in new tongues and calling him all sort of names his mother didn’t remember to give him as he constantly hit the G-spot. So, I asked him “what is G-spot, how did you locate it and how did you know you were hitting it?”

He kept quiet for a while and answered proudly “Guy, the babe was screaming and writhing in pleasure as I delivered accurate strokes with my kondo olopa” I simply smiled because obviously, he had read some few things online, or in some romance magazine about how G-spot is that place that produces a very powerful kind of stimulation and enjoyment for women; so for him, once a woman screams your name endlessly or wriggle in utmost pleasure while you are slamming away, you are hitting the G-spot. Shikena!

I told him nothing is farther from the truth, and I took a little time to educate him on what most of us already knew or thought we knew about that mythological fountain of women that is thought to be full of treasure, pleasure, and all knowledge of self and humanity.

Noticed I said ‘mythological’? Yes, because it is no news that most women don’t even attain orgasm during sex, not to talk of knowing where the G-spot is, and many who claimed to reach orgasm are just faking it; women can tell you more about ‘faking’ it, if they want to be truthful.

The clitoris before now was considered the only trigger for the female orgasm and even at that, finding the clitoris has been and still is a daunting task for many men, especially in this part of the world where we practice(d) female genital mutilation and a large chunk of the clitoris area must have been severed. But in 1950, a gynecologist and sexologist, Dr. Ernst Grafenberg found an even more mysterious female pleasure spot hidden within the vagina (which was later named after him in the 1980s) but, I’m sure the gynecologist must have been looking for something else  before stumbling on something else that when stimulated, produces a very powerful kind of female orgasm; and in some women, produces female ejaculation, colloquially known as “squirting” (Trust me, I have seen few girls squirt and oh! what a feeling…) *winks*.

So, the question is how do you locate, stimulate, and discover the best sex position to hit the woman’s G-spot which has become the Holy Grail of female pleasuring?

First, where is the G-spot located? Sexologists told us that the location varies from woman to woman but generally should be located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall. That should mean as if you are moving towards the belly button but from inside the vagina. So, how do you locate it? Well, the fastest way and maybe surest way of locating it will be using your finger while your partner is lying on her back and possibly propped by a pillow for maximum effect. Gently insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina as far as it will easily go and use your thumb or the other index finger on the outside of the hairy area above the pubic bone to lightly massage the skin in the area where your middle finger which by now should be turned up towards yourself (as if you are gesticulating to someone to come towards you) then try sliding the inserted fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall. If you find it, your woman’s reaction will surprise even you. But, make sure your fingernails are trimmed mbok!

If you don’t get a reaction, don’t be too shy to ask her if she feels especially sensitive when you touch what you think is the spot. You may need to use a fair amount of pressure to find the G-spot because it is located within, not outside of the vaginal wall. Now, let’s say you have found it, how do you stimulate and continue hitting it during sex? Afterall you will not use your finger all through the… you know?

Well, the general misconception for men most time is that, we believe the size of our organ will determine if we hit a woman’s G-spot everytime or not. Well, it is not true, because you do not have to possess a horse-like phallus to hit the G-spot, but at the same time, you don’t have to possess a micropenis penis sha, as that might make it more difficult to even reach the place. So, after finding the G-spot, let the woman remain in the same position, lying on her back with the pillow underneath her ass thereby propping her up, this position brings the front wall of the vagina closer and tilts the G-spot upward for adequate penile stimulation during sex. Other sex positions that will ensure hitting the G-spot include: The “woman on top” (cowgirl) position, posterior (doggy style) positions, the seated scissors position and any other one you can try out to achieve the purpose of hitting the G-spot.

But while several men may have to find positions that maximize penile contact with the front wall of the vagina in order to hit the G-spot, a man whose penis has a natural upward bend, (like I know some guys do) has got it made. So, even if he decides to stay missionary all night long, his woman will enjoy repetitive stimulation of the G-spot.

But in all these, you can still enjoy sex with your partner with or without finding and hitting the G-spot as not all women are G-spot sensitive, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t make her squirt or get that special reaction. Communicating with your partner and trying out new things with each other (not BDSM biko) can ensure you discover other areas in her body that she responds to, even more enthusiastically.